Go slowly, lots of lube, lots of communication with your partner

start By stretching my using an un fisted hand. once you get to the point where you can take their hand across the knuckles plus the thumb have them slowly work their thumb away from their hand to stretch you further. have them rotate their hand not just keep it stationary.

and after about 3 days of not doing it you do have to start all over. If you've had kids vaginally it's easier. if it's in your ass you better be very relaxed other wise it will cause ripping. Lube it your bestest friend in the whole wide world. I recommend petroleum jelly first and then water based lube depending on the size of the first verses the size of you will make the difference in how much you'll need.

"Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting" www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-6-3-SC-BE12 is an excellent resource.

For anal, "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men" is my pick www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-6-3-RB-BE05

You really want to take some time to learn about how to do it and avoid injury, particularly for anal. As one author noted "The vagina is a tough old bird," and can take a lot more than an ass can.

But let me tell you: when it's done right, you can come harder than you ever imagined.

Two words: Silent Duck....


Ok more than two... Take your time, communicate with your partner, work up to it, and if it really really hurts, use common sense and stop, for the love of Pete :) Quick advice, I know, but I hope it helps!

I've only had one experience with fisting and it was anal. I remember it being one of the most intense experiences I have ever had. My anal experince prior to that was very limited. He had instructed me thru anal training (graduated anal plugs) and then had enjoyed using my ass on a couple of ocassions but nothing prepared me for the pleasure of fisting.

A big part of it, for me anyway, was the work up to the actual fisting. My ass is very sensitive and responsive so the first finger had me excited. By the time he was able to insert his whole fist I was nearly insane with pleasure. He told me afterwards that the next time he would have to restrain me because I was all over the bed. Unfortunately there never was a next time but the memories still excite me and make my rosebud twich. yum

This is my readers digest version
I like to set aside plenty of time, gloves, lube and let her set the speed, well sorta...
Prefer to get her good and revved up teased till she begging or demanding almost...
Just aching for insertion, let her begins to ride one finger as I continue teasing, increase fingers slowly. When I increase I press against and around but not insert I let her feel it slowly, I find by this point she'll try to push herself on to my hand, once in I stay here teasing, resting, teasing and again introduce another finger, repeat... Like knocking at the door, begin pressing in and see response.
Once you’re in rest a moment, softly kiss her clit or lick slowly letting her ride you, once you feel she is comfortable you can play, gentle stimulate the area just inside the vaginal entrance or g-spot or...
Watch closely for when she has had enough and SLOWLY remove your hand. Its also nice if you keep other hand on her pussy pressing gentle as to calm that area, as you slide your hand out slide the other hand down eventually covering her pussy entirely using both hands or placing one on her tummy above her pubic bone apply gentle pressure again to calm that area... Most of the time if feels good to curl up after and snuggle..